He's Just Not That Into Me - A Painful Truth

Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. "He's afraid to get hurt again." "Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship." "Maybe he's intimidated by me." "He just got out of a relationship." Despite good intentions, you are wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be he's jut not that into you.

Greg Behrendt/Liz Tuccillo

A painful truth, but I am afraid it is mine. I was stood up tonight. AGAIN (uh yeah, by the same man). And yes, I know what they say. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me SIX times??? Then I'm a DAMN FOOL. I trusted his heart. I believed in his goodness. He seemed to be this romantic, chivalrous man; just going through a rough time. Gullible, foolish, naive am I.... Believing in the good in people...

In the past three years, I have been out with almost THIRTY men. It's been fun, it's been good for my self-esteem, it's been better than staying home alone, it's been educational. But I am frickin FED UP.... Do I expect too much?? Do I hope for too much???

I want a man who is gentle and kind; a man who knows that there is life after this one and that there is a God who sustains us and loves us; a man who is communicative and unselfish; a man with a beautiful soul who can express the emotions that he has (and yes, I DO believe that all men have them - Most are just not brave enough to express them); one who works hard, but knows that work is simply to provide the funds to live a full life; one who knows how to laugh and knows how to love; one who has values and morals and expects the same of me; one who is passionate and sensual and can express these things in a healthy manner; one who adores children and sees the hope that they bring; one who lives life to it's fullest. I want a man with a beautiful soul who can see the soul that is inside of me and appreciate it for what it is. A man who will treat a woman like a princess... Tell me folks, am I asking for too much??? Is this a possibility?? Does this type of man exist?

I am tired of shallow men whose word means nothing to them. Men who do not cherish women. Men who will not chase after me... I KNOW that I am chase-worthy. I KNOW that there is a man on this planet who will gaze into my eyes and wonder how he got so lucky to find me. And this will NOT be a man who stands me up, who doesn't have the time to call and does not make me a priority. I am worth more. I deserve more. And I will get more. I will not settle for men who make excuses anymore. I am valuable and I expect to be treated with value. I demand it. I will not tolerate less.