Dr. Laura - his stress is not my stress

I'm taking a break from my studies of dermatology (blech!) to write about an episode I listened to the other day on Dr. Laura. The woman is very controversial, for sure. I'm sure that most people either love her or hate her. I like her non-emotional approach ("stroking" people in need seems to waste a lot of time - and doesn't encourage change, I don't think); however, being a caring, emotional, empathetic person, I think her approach is a tad harsh at times.

I was very interested in a conversation she had with a young girl on air the other day. She called in stating that she'd had a lot of stress in her life. She reported that she was 19, a newlywed, and her husband was overseas with the military. He'd gotten hurt and didn't know what was going to happen with his career. Dr. Laura replied with, "you've told me about his stress, what is yours?"... the young girl proceeded to talk about her brother who was a newlywed and having marital problems. Again, Dr. Laura stated, "that's your brother's stress..what's yours?" She went on to say that in her experiences with counseling, that most people had a lot of stress in their lives, but it was not their own. They were spending a lot of time worrying about other people's problems. How close to home is that for me? I've told people lately that I feel as if I'm the one who lost my home because I care for my bf so much. But I suppose I'm not doing him any favors allowing it to get me down. I'm certainly not doing myself any favors.

I wonder how this plays in with people that are married. What I mean by that is, I know that boundaries are important in marriage. However, the two DO become one, right? This young 19 year old girl was married. Whatever happened to her husbands career would affect her too...

I know that I've let myself go a lot...have not done the things that I was doing before all this happened. I know that's not healthy. I know my boundaries have been meshed, and that's not good.

Anyone have thoughts on Dr. Laura? I enjoy listening to her and become stronger; empowered, I think... She does need a tad more compassion, though...